Gender Attraction

 This is actually a very sensitive topic to most people in the world. Considering that it has effect people in their families, religions and personal beliefs. To me, I have never had the trouble to figure out my sexuality. Which for me is a great blessing that I didn't have to go through the rough times today. I've wondered how parents may have responded and how children reacts to the way one can be attracted with each other. Ultimately, it's about how people generally see gender and what it is. For example, people in Thailand gives off the explanation that "love is love." It is how they see love differently than we do as a culture. Even in the church, their are perspective and life experiences that would add up to one's sexuality. Social media has played a huge part to the world and what it portrays nowadays acceptable. With how I personally grow up, I watched Disney movies to help me identified me as a man, giving me a clear conscience to who I am and what my role is. My parents were also a factor that played a huge role in my life. How my mom and dad treated me that brought me to have better understanding. Friends from school will also have an effect. One of the situations brings a child and which gender do they wanna be around more. A young man who gets along and spent his time more with girls can be seen as unusual. Other boys would make fun of them to being more feminine. But when a girl spends her time more with the boys, they see that as a tom boy, which can be seen as cute in our culture. As you can see, the reactions to these situations are all learned behaviors. By the social construct, we created the environment that is now well known today. Is the boy gay because he started playing Barbie when he was four? The bigger question would be how the father or mother would tell him in that situation. You see, we starts to learn more about gender roles by the influences we experienced in our early ages. Which makes me realized that people who are gay and lesbians were raised in a way that they themselves are identified. People who say "I was born this way" doesn't really understand that statement isn't necessarily true. They say things like "I'm just attracted to males or females, or may be both need to know that they were taught at some point in their lives that it was learned. This is a free world as well it is a fallen world, so agency is still in play for people to decide. But I will say that I am currently frustrated with the double standards where we have to accept opposing views completely, but they don't have to accept ours. Again, agency is still a big part, but to hate on others just because they don't believe in a sexuality due to reasons like religion is completely biased. For me to say that I don't believe in gay marriages doesn't mean I'm saying people who are homosexual are bad people. The same exact thing needs to be said vice versa. Regardless of my frustration, there is an explanation as to why people believe the way they are. It is learned, not born with. To be more clear, anyone who says "I was born this way" usually are people who stops their progression on being happy. They set themselves up to what the world and the people around them might say. Letting things effect them rather than taking steps to finding truth that may set them free. Even with scientific facts will not clear people's conscience that there is one way. Not any others when it comes to marriage and sexuality.