Transitions Points in Marriage

 Courtship, engagement, marriage, children are all phases in a relationship couples go through together if they are willing to take on. Most of us will ask if we are going to be ready for these events in our lives. Wondering if we're going to be prepare for these commitments. To start, courtship is simply dating and getting to know each other at a beginning of a relationship. Not so committed, but enjoy the company while building a relationship. Next is the engagement, this phase of commitment ensures that you are seeing a person individually and putting fences up to any other potential relationship. People make this decision as a preparation to cohabit with each other. It is an actually transition to a life where people make choices to what they will do in the future to make it work. Years ago, it is common for a gentlemen for man to commit himself completely. Asking a woman out of the blue without discussion to marry them. Compare to today, couples would have deep and throughout conversations before they commit to marriage. This kind of engagement has changed over the years and the woman are more likely to bring up marriage than the males. There's data that also suggest in a difficult part of marriage, the woman would overcome when she remembers the early part of their marriage where the husband was completely committed and would do anything for her. Her memories are quite fond of what the husband showed in the past. Another part about engagement, is the planning part of it. How can you merge your life together and what might be some things you need to sacrifice. Two lanes merging to make one may be simple, but there are factors like money, time, work, furnishes, etc. Boundaries are drawn with huge decisions to make as part of their engagement. How much one person be talking to their exes, families, friends, showing how committed they should be in order to make things work out for each other. As far as boundaries, people need to know that problems will not be solve in a marriage. People need to address their problems, so that it won't come up later in marriage. Everyone has their own kind of baggage they each have, we have to ask ourselves if we're able to work through it with our significant others. Another part of marriage people may seem to take on, is a type of contract. While you are engage or in marriage, people creates some binding rules that played into boundaries. While I give this and you give this is part of a contract, covenants is also a contract. But it is set by a higher authority where it is much more powerful with the connections that involves it. Not only committed to each other, but a commitment to God or even to a community. In some ways, couples who have children are in some ways in a contract with each other. They would feel obligated to stay, more so for raising their kids. People feel like that's what they owed because of the situation. Vice versa with the child where they are making the decisions with their parents. Overall, I feel like people just needs to be committed to what people decide to do. Are we going to do the things we said we're gonna do and keep them. What will make of us if we don't take on responsibilities. The blessings are waiting and wanted, how much are we all willing to commit and love each other. I personally need to know what I would be
committed to. Be logical and find out what will be beneficial in the grand scheme of our lives. Not say we won't make mistakes, we will and was it planned. Or do you need to plan then? Provide the needed support for the bridges that's been created.