My Family System

 I've been given an opportunity to reflect on my family quite recently. Got to say that it has been fascinating how much my family has influenced me over the past twenty years of my life. In many ways we all have had our own individual uprising in the world. How I was personally influenced was my parents like many. I had no idea how much they had effected me and what I choose to do today. Realizing this, I now understand the process in which both my parents had to work through together. Within the family, conflicts isn't necessarily bad as I thought it would be. It is a matter of growing and adjusting for the better. My family didn't live the gospel, but they know the morality and what is good for family. Family structure generally consists a mother and father with sons or daughters as a typical nuclear family. Making it the universal way people have always traditioned themselves to. Within a marriage, a process of learning and understand is well much needed in order for it to last forever. The wife and husband would be well off if both take on responsibility and humility. A committed relationship isn't truly one to take lightly, especially when spouses made their vow to love and support each other far as long as they can. Working together is essential to almost every moment of marriage. Watching out for each other and making sure showing each other love so that the commitment you make can be eternal. A wise friend of mine once said that every one in this world has some kind of baggage. It is up to all of us to decide what kind of good and baggage we're willing to live with. Growing up, I was able to see my parent's conflict with each other even in the small things in life. What to buy, clean, organize, and one of the most important thing to any parents, is how to raise their child in the world. My dad often feels a bit neglected when my mom tends to give me a ton of attention. While my mom would feel like my dad isn't really involve with me at all. Even  I didn't feel like he wasn't giving me enough attention. With that said, parents should allow each other to be a process of help raising the children. In the process, parents sets the example with how they treat each other so that their children would do the same for their future marriages. I would guess that however I shall treat my future spouse, I might expect to see some similarities from the actions of my parents. Though it will be true that everyone will try to do better than their own parents. But again, humility does come into place to recognize our errors for better solution. I will have conflict with my spouse, but it is my choice to learn and be better as it is a challenge. For the longest time I tend to make my own decision when people grow up. But when marriage comes into play, it is no longer just about me and my decision. It is decisions you make together in order to overcome the inevitable conflict. I personally believe that conflict will be the solution to getting closer with one person to another. Working in unison is key to getting work done and making eventual progression to new things in life. I'm sure that's why people call it an adventure. An adventure isn't one to be of comfort all the time as I'm sure everyone knows. But it is definitely every moment of it when people make it to be so. There are families out there that has been unfortunate due to their situations and decisions in life. But it is the child's agency to make their life matter based on what they went through with their own family experiences. I treasure my time with my family and because of them I know what I can decide to do with my life. The influence teaches us to be better and does define me by what I know and do with the knowledge I obtain.