Conflicts in Families

For starters, I have noticed have families have interacted with each other during conflicts. It's not just a simple petty little things parents have a problem with. But it's about what might effect them on the long run when the father or mother decides to do what's best for the family. What exactly is the best decision? Well, you won't know unless you act and found out. My Family made the decision for me to live in the States. As people may know me, I grew up in Vietnam until I was seven years old. Moving to San Antonio Texas and has lived there for over sixteen years. I've taken upon myself to talk to my parents about why we even decided to even move at all. Back in Vietnam I remembered being really happy with what I had. Friends, family members, food, and many other things I personally enjoyed. Nonetheless, my parents and I packed up and headed straight to America without me knowing why. Come to find out, my uncle sponsored half of the family to live in the states. Which is amazing, despite that we don't get along at all. Although this may be true, I recently understand why he's the person I know today. He has had quite an interesting upbringing, considering how he escaped Vietnam. Started with him falling in love with the next door neighbor's girl. I don't know much of the detail, but he was seriously in love with her as a kid. At one point, the girl's family decided to escape Vietnam to go to America. Being close with the family, my uncle was offered by her family to escape with them to go. Situation got out of hand and my grandmother did not know and truly believed that her son was kidnapped by the neighbor to go to Vietnam. Funny that it was all his choice to follow to in hoping to marry the woman of his dream. Unfortunately, the girl now woman, did not feel the same way about my uncle. She thought that he was only a good friend, showing up in almost every picture they took together wasn't gonna seal the deal. She eventually decided to marry someone older than him. Needless to say, he was very much heartbroken with the matter. Following her from the beginning was never seen as a risk to him. So believe it or not, he still had faith. He eventually decided to live in New York to find new ways to continue his life. Worked in a Japanese restaurant for two years and people thought that he was Japanese. Until one miraculous news come running to him. Turns out the marriage did not work out due to the husband's abusive actions. Without a second thought, my uncle rushed to her side and quote, "seduced her." Not too long after that they got married and had two more kids with the one from the past marriage. Which are my cousins who I dearly love. The next five years, my uncle was able to sponsored my family then. I've had interactions with my uncle before in the past, but I never knew what he had to go through in order for me to be in the States. All in all, he had the courage and faith to follow his dreams to sacrificed many things for happiness. His actions humbled me enough to be grateful for him. There are times when we do n

 get along, but I do have huge respect for the man. Learning history of a loved one actions has been eye opening. There's no substitute for the blessings that's been bestowed upon me and my family. My uncle took those hard steps, and I'm willing to be an example for the future generation as well. 

My Family System

 I've been given an opportunity to reflect on my family quite recently. Got to say that it has been fascinating how much my family has influenced me over the past twenty years of my life. In many ways we all have had our own individual uprising in the world. How I was personally influenced was my parents like many. I had no idea how much they had effected me and what I choose to do today. Realizing this, I now understand the process in which both my parents had to work through together. Within the family, conflicts isn't necessarily bad as I thought it would be. It is a matter of growing and adjusting for the better. My family didn't live the gospel, but they know the morality and what is good for family. Family structure generally consists a mother and father with sons or daughters as a typical nuclear family. Making it the universal way people have always traditioned themselves to. Within a marriage, a process of learning and understand is well much needed in order for it to last forever. The wife and husband would be well off if both take on responsibility and humility. A committed relationship isn't truly one to take lightly, especially when spouses made their vow to love and support each other far as long as they can. Working together is essential to almost every moment of marriage. Watching out for each other and making sure showing each other love so that the commitment you make can be eternal. A wise friend of mine once said that every one in this world has some kind of baggage. It is up to all of us to decide what kind of good and baggage we're willing to live with. Growing up, I was able to see my parent's conflict with each other even in the small things in life. What to buy, clean, organize, and one of the most important thing to any parents, is how to raise their child in the world. My dad often feels a bit neglected when my mom tends to give me a ton of attention. While my mom would feel like my dad isn't really involve with me at all. Even  I didn't feel like he wasn't giving me enough attention. With that said, parents should allow each other to be a process of help raising the children. In the process, parents sets the example with how they treat each other so that their children would do the same for their future marriages. I would guess that however I shall treat my future spouse, I might expect to see some similarities from the actions of my parents. Though it will be true that everyone will try to do better than their own parents. But again, humility does come into place to recognize our errors for better solution. I will have conflict with my spouse, but it is my choice to learn and be better as it is a challenge. For the longest time I tend to make my own decision when people grow up. But when marriage comes into play, it is no longer just about me and my decision. It is decisions you make together in order to overcome the inevitable conflict. I personally believe that conflict will be the solution to getting closer with one person to another. Working in unison is key to getting work done and making eventual progression to new things in life. I'm sure that's why people call it an adventure. An adventure isn't one to be of comfort all the time as I'm sure everyone knows. But it is definitely every moment of it when people make it to be so. There are families out there that has been unfortunate due to their situations and decisions in life. But it is the child's agency to make their life matter based on what they went through with their own family experiences. I treasure my time with my family and because of them I know what I can decide to do with my life. The influence teaches us to be better and does define me by what I know and do with the knowledge I obtain.   

    

Beware of bias studies

 In light of recent learning I've been able to participate in. There was a Science Social Research where people were able to take a look closer into same-sex parenting and children's outcome. A journal was published on March 12, 2012 regarding the controversial topic. I was going through the article and noticed some conflicting ways on going about a bias experiment. With many statistic studies going on about how there's "no evidence that same-sex parents are different from each other." This is a very sensitive recent topic as the world are starting to accept same-sex marriages. From my personal view, people are fine to do whatever they chose to do as long as they don't harm another. It's completely for same-sex couples exists even though I don't support it. But to complete a survey or data based on false assumptions and bias recordings only to make same-sex marriages seem as though that there's no problem with it, is not in any way acceptable! From what I've gathered, there's been some misreading of the analysis. According to the article "Hijacking Science: How the “No Differences” Consensus about Same-Sex Households and Children Works," there were over 19,000 quality studies of same-sex households with children. The problem arises when none of those studies has detected any problems. Which was suspicious to people because 26 peer review came from National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study. They repeated the survey with well of lesbians couples with children who are Caucasians and educated. These studies has left with the impression that they represent the entire population. Mostly by the scholarly communities and the media in which a great amount of people believe in. Which already proves my point where the studies are quite skeptical. 

For this reason, we reach my main point. There may be research out there that are measured dishonestly. People with political agendas are at work whether we believe it or not. In this fallen world, we must seek diligently for knowledge with the utmost faith. The fallen world itself uses the good truth and twist it using our personal emotions. People act impulsively on their emotions to compensate for their pain and agony. Especially to the things they can't control. They tend to rely on the news media to tell them what is going on in the world, and giving false reasons why it happens. I have my own personal biases as well.  There are things in our lives that we must stand grounded on. Being strong in our beliefs is a must when it is right, but being diligent when it comes to finding the truth must also be as important. Imagine when two people are in a heated debate with each other. How can you really know what they're saying is true. Sometimes, people just want to be right just out of pride. Sometimes, people have different motives for their own gain. It is wise for all of us to make connections while listening to others with a grain of salt. Many of us starts off not knowing and it is our curiosity is what drives our action. Our very actions and how we go about discerning the statements made by others goes hand in hand. Providing evidence is key to our seeking in order to make connections. If we know that we will be facing opposition, it's imperative to be ready and defend the truth by integrity of our individual evidences. Another important fact that I have learn, is that we must labor knowing that it will always be an ongoing process as a part of our lives. The faith to take action fuels this process as it develops, evolves and changes. As news comes into our lives, we face uncertainties with fears and emotions. Acting impulsively to it will put us in a position to making poor choices as we struggle to find the truth. That's why the element of discipline must become a part of our character. It will be a challenge to all of us at some point in our lives. To me, it is truly a blessing to go through it even though I may struggle. But if I am persistence, I will find the truth by faith without fear.

https://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2016/10/18033/

A Demonstration of Standard

 As it is my first official blog post, I am determine to witness my personal growth in my life. At the time of this post, I am currently a student at BYUI, winter semester 2021. Learning academically with a Sociology Major. Planning to also receive a Master degree and hoping to establish a career in the CIA someday. With due time I wish to accomplish the understanding of how families functions as a whole that has developed within our society. In doing so, my goal should help me achieve a firm conviction to put myself into the world and what I will do personally with it. Relying on the straight and narrow path has directed me to become the person I am today. In which I am very proud of myself for. The path have not been easy, but it has been worth every heartache, pain and tribulations. When a person sees their own personal growth, They will have a gain power, confidence, new beliefs for their future journey in life.  I should expect times of gladness, joy, and happiness. At the same time, events that may consists of sorrow, regrets and maybe a broken heart. But as stated before, determination with a powerful new belief will enable my conviction to continue my everlasting journey. Every post I will make, will be composed of thoughts and determination with events and experiences I may have my recent life.  

To begin, my understanding of the family consists of units of 2 or more people related by birth, marriage, or adoption. Whoever you want to consider as a family is a beautiful thing. Over time the definition of family has undergoing changes due to society's culture and what it means to be a family. Many people we all have come across will likely define family differently than we do. So how can we individually define what a family really is? Is it about the current trends with popular culture? What values does the media teaches to people by defining individualism? Personally for me, it's about truth and what is the reality. Our culture after all, is define by the majority value. By the beliefs and assumption we hold, having us to make our own choices whether to believe or reject the norm and reject current customs. As far as I can see, fear has driven our society to stray from success in truth. The more fear is accepted, the more problems we will encounter. In the New Economic Reality Winter video, gave me strong examples of movements in the past that is effecting our current day and future. We see the fear and concern we currently have was due to the initial doubt that the world has had in past. How can we counter this problem? Well, it is by the simple things in our lives that can give us truth for better progression. First, I firmly believe in truth. Truth is the absolute that can never be change or to be hindered with. Forces in our lives we can have no control over. Knowing that there is an absolute out there is the first step. Second, it's to find and define the truth. Daring to know for myself, seeking it out with my best effort through the process of learning. Taking life experiences and making a lesson learn every day like a child that learns. Lastly, it is to have humility. Gaining the knowledge will not be enough for any of us. We must take the steps and make connection for the understanding with what may unfolds before our eyes. Just knowing a fact doesn't mean you found the solution! Another part is accepting that you can be wrong will take you to be on the right path. Many points in my life I have found myself to be wrong with many things due to personal pride and believing that I'm right with everything. That is dangerous for anybody, because they could be in the wrong their entire life while believing that they're correct. It is truth that we are imperfect! Especially in this life where society as a whole is imperfect.